This morning at the flea market in Sandwich, Mass I stopped at a table and started visiting with Dennis. Here’s Dennis. I scored some cool jewelry, some butter knives, a beautiful serving spoon and silver salad tongs from his goods. The serving pieces he actually gifted me after such a great early morning conversation. Not a bad way to start a Wednesday.
We talked about kids, art, art school, traveling, creative minds, how creative minds work, selling Cadillacs, GOT JUNK (Dennis is a GOT JUNK Franchise owner in Rhode Island). My kids know that I love that business so much that the guys are referred to as “my GOT JUNK boyfriends” when they take a load from my home or studio. It was a great conversation and I learned that one of Dennis’ sons is a sculptor in Los Angeles. So I of course, needed to know more about his Rhode Island School of Design son working as a sculptor in LA. As an artist and a mother who is taking her son to art school (MIAD Milwaukee Institute of Art and Design) in a few weeks, it’s inspiring to hear a story of how a young creative life was constructed.
Here are links to Brian’s work. I really like the Snow White and the Seven Dwarves sculptures. His vision makes them seem so much more complex and multi-dimensional. I encourage you to go the distance if you learn about something that interests you. It’s so easy to follow-up with someone and let them know how you found out about their work, idea, situation etc. This is one of the best reasons for the internet in my estimation.
This image is one of my favorite memories of my whole summer. My husband, Jeff came out on the porch with coffee and his guitar. He strummed. I read the paper. The birds chirped. There was true beauty in that moment. It will always a part of me even when it fades.
I am grateful that my mother taught me to take the time to savor small moments and not live my life waiting for big events. She used to tell my sister and I, “Girls, there are a lot more every days in your life than special occasions.” There are hardly truer words to live by. Thanks Mom.
1. At 5:20 this morning my bedroom was lit up with bright red and orange light. I felt the sunrise was beckoning me outside. I actually felt a little “witchy” like I was being mysteriously seduced to head to the light. NOTE: I was born with an extra finger on my left hand, as was my daughter, Lucy—anyway…I ran outside in my pajamas and watched the sunrise over Cape Cod Bay in our neighborhood of TOWN NECK. I quickly drove down to the beach to take some pictures before I missed it.
2. I have guests coming tonight and I am doing a 20 minute tidy this morning. I walked out into my yard to find some flowers for this Scargo Pottery vase that I love. These flowers looked so independent of each other. I liked the way they seemed to have such personalities. Independent and Unified. This is what I’m striving for today with my family life. We’ll see…
3. This morning I opened a book and this pressed leaf fell out. I found the color to be so stunning. I don’t remember when I pressed it, but I am so grateful that somewhere along the line I learned that life is these little moments and not necessarily grand experiences or discoveries.
Sometimes we need to know where we’re heading and other times it’s so good to not have any idea. Learning when a map is required and when to follow our instincts is a necessary practice in our lives. We can’t have everything all “mapped out”. Where’s the discovery in that?
When I am feeling really stuck on a problem or creative dilemma (yes, dilemma I looked it up) I have found that doing something other than trying to intellectually muscle my way through can be surprisingly successful.
So I have been reading directions and watching YouTube Videos about how to assemble a trampoline that just got delivered. Assembling things is one of my biggest challenges. I am ambidextrous. I am a visual learner and I like to jump in and not really plan my projects. I go with my gut and it has generally guided me well. However, I am pretty sure that if I use the same technique to assemble the trampoline that I will be putting people I love at risk.
So, I decided I needed to do something creative to pull myself out of my negative assembly loop. I did this quick computer sketch of Amadeo Modigliani’s Portrait of Franz Heller. Modigliani is one of my favorite painters. I think I’m ready to go lay out the parts and begin the process now. I am hoping a little creative exercise was all that I needed.
This morning my friend, Marita and I discussed the need to unclutter our busy brains. I’ve found when I employ this strategy—it really helps. In the morning if I make a list of my priorities/values and say to myself that I will only:
2. click through
3. listen to
4. seek out
information that has me closer to reaching my daily goals that I’m way more satisfied at the end of the day. Try it. Just like everything else it takes practice and daily reminders. You might be amazed at how empowering it can be to act more deliberately. The irony of blogging about this when I’m asking you to not pay attention isn’t lost on me. 🙂
These were the first two words in my head this morning at 4:50 (good golly). LETTING GO. There are a number of reasons I believe we all need to do an inventory of our lives and see what it’s time to let go of…stuff, relationships, old ideas, habits, outdated beliefs, narratives about ourselves and so on. At 47 years old and the mother of three teenagers (my first one going to college this fall) it’s a pretty awesome and terrifying time to do this assessment. However, entirely necessary for the survival of myself and those I love. I was reading this site this morning and thought there were a few gems that could be helpful. Great site—well worth some time.
PS I think I should get a skirt made from this print. I think my twin daughters would wholeheartedly agree that a reminder on my clothing to LET GO would be a really good idea.
Letting Go of Attachment to People (from ZenHabits) http://zenhabits.net/zen-attachment/
Friend yourself. It will be harder to let people go when necessary if you depend on them for your sense of worth. Believe you’re worthy whether someone else tells you or not. This way, you relate to people—not just how they make you feel about yourself.
Go it alone sometimes. Take time to foster your own interests, ones that nothing and no one can take away. Don’t let them hinge on anyone or anything other than your values and passion.
Hold lightly. This one isn’t just about releasing attachments—it’s also about maintaining healthy relationships. Contrary to romantic notions, you are not someone’s other half. You’re separate and whole. You can still hold someone to close to your heart; just remember, if you squeeze too tightly, you’ll both be suffocated.