Will, Maynard, Dorthea, Frida, and Diego…

Author/dentist—Will Lillibridge (great-granduncle) wrote the book Ben Blair. It was published by A. C. McClurg & Co., Chicago, 1905. This was the same year Will’s older brother, Lowell Stanton Lillibridge (my great-grandfather) helped settle the town of Burke, South Dakota where I grew up.

I recently discovered that the cover art for Ben Blair was done by artist, Maynard Dixon—he was married to depression-era photographer (and one of my heroes) Dorthea Lange. Only recently did I learn that Dorthea photographed churches in 1938 near Winner, SD, 39 miles west of Burke.

Three Churches of the High Plains, near Winner, South Dakota; Dorothea Lange (American, 1895 – 1965); negative 1938; print 1940s.

Dorthea Lange & Maynard Dixon became friends with Frida Kahlo & Diego Rivera in San Francisco in the 1930s. Maynard at first disliked Diego (as many people did).

A few weeks ago I toured Frida and Diego’s home and studio in Mexico City. Being in the presence of these rooms, the light, shadows, color, collected objects, art, videos, and photographs was…well, Guau (wow).

Seeing where Frida and Diego lived, worked, fought, loved, and entertained made me long for an old-timey, bohemian life without so many modern-day distractions.

Their home museum is located in Coyoacán, a village on the outskirts of Mexico City.

The photos below were taken at the Museo Casa Estudio in San Angel, also a village on the outskirts of Mexico City.

You deserve a lover who takes away the lies and brings you hope, coffee, and poetry.
Frida Kahlo

Thank you, Uncle Will, Maynard, Dorthea, Frida and Diego!

Three Churches of the High Plains, near Winner, South Dakota; Dorothea Lange (American, 1895 - 1965); negative 1938; print 1940s; Gelatin silver print; 25.6 × 27 cm (10 1/16 × 10 5/8 in.); 2016.150.1; No Copyright - United States (http://rightsstatements.org/vocab/NoC-US/1.0/)

understanding myself a little better…

I was raised by two entirely different ways of looking at the world. Mom and Dad’s individual circumstances, experiences, programming, and natures formed their worldviews, just as it did for their parents, grandparents, great-grandparents and of course, their offspring too.

MY MOM: We’re all pretty wretched human beings. However, if we follow divine rules, tamp down our true natures to follow those rules, and constantly seek forgiveness, then we just might escape eternal damnation.

MY DAD: We’re basically pretty decent folks, we all make mistakes, if we can own them sometimes, and be open to a little coaching then we just might learn from our mistakes and do a little bit better next time.

A friend’s mom says, “it’s a wonder it goes”…it seemed appropriate here somehow. Thank you Martha & Marita.

Grandparents, siblings, birth order, aunts, uncles, cousins, ancient ancestors, geography, friends, boyfriends, school, church, teachers, books, music, TV shows, movies, pets, sports, coaches, experiences, my husband, my children, my nature and so much more, all played a part in who I am today.

Who we are and why is so mysteriously layered and complex that distilling ourselves (or anyone else for that matter) down with just a few data points seems woefully inadequate…total bullshit actually.

My daughter, Willa Govoni shot these photos on the beach a few weeks ago. She captured moments of pure joy and goofing off. These feel like the real me or how I would like my great-grandchildren to see me one day anyway. Thank you Willa.

“I’d rather laugh with the sinners than cry with the saints, the sinners are much more fun.” —Billy Joel

Dad liked those Billy Joel lyrics and I think he also understood my worldview quite well. Monday, August 30th will be three years, try to rest in peace Big Guy.

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