What we think about…grows.

Everywhere we look in the world we see things “going to hell in a hand basket” because it gets views, clicks, headlines, sells advertising and makes money.

It’s a bummer that things going well doesn’t generate nearly the BUZZ in our culture as distasteful deeds, disaster and destruction.  It also is a self-fulfilling thought cycle.

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OUR BRAIN SAYS: “I’ve been told things are very bad—so I will vigilantly look for ways to confirm this bias over and over.”

Whatever we choose to give the most attention to is what will grow and grow and dominate our thoughts.

Can you imagine if our news and political discussion every day/all day was filled with stories of remarkable acts of generosity, compromise and courage? 

Of course there are times in our lives when very challenging events and situations require a lot of thought and energy.  However, if we stay in that place when we things have settled down—it will no doubt adversely affect our health and our relationships.

So, why do it?  We all get addicted to ways of thinking…just like any other addiction.  Unfortunately, there isn’t a quick fix for long practiced patterns of thought. However, if we start to notice we just might be able to self correct this negative pattern of thinking a little tiny bit at a time.  If we all try focusing on the good things in our a lives a tiny bit more—we might just start a thought revolution. 

Hey, it’s worth a shot, huh?

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The benefits of novelty.

This weekend I wanted to feel like a visitor in my own city…I sought out some new experiences trying to see Burlington through a fresh lens.  This works anywhere…even in our own homes…change things up a bit for a fresh perspective.  It doesn’t have to be a huge change to make your brain happy.


Routine has it’s place and it’s convenient, but it doesn’t do much to spark our imagination or increase our problem solving skills.  Here is a great blog I found about this very subject.

Creativity Accelerators: Novelty, Unpredictability and Complexity

Accelerate your creativity by embracing novelty and complexity, and challenging yourself to stay relaxed and focused in the face of risk and unpredictability.

http://www.diygenius.com/creativity-accelerators/  (Sam Brinson DIY Genius blog)

“In order to create something novel and unexpected, we need to break the routine and insert some unpredictability, to look for the unknown and let our curiosity be our guide.”

My daughter, Willa and I went to see a POP ART Print Show  at the Fleming Museum at The University of Vermont—Jasper Johns, Roy Lichtenstein, Robert Rauschenberg and Andy Warhol oh my.  What a beautiful museum—it’s only 5 minutes from my home and I don’t go there nearly enough.

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Then we drove to Vergennes Laundry/coffee shop for a latte.  The light was as gorgeous as this french coffee shop is.  I also posted this on my INSTAGRAM profile. Follow me @ DAKOTA1966.



On Sunday my twin 15-year-old daughters, Lucy and Willa and I went to ONE DAY UNIVERSITY at the Hilton in Burlington.  If you’re unfamiliar with One Day University I highly recommend you check them out in your area.  We spent a chilly Sunday afternoon learning about intuition, the universe, classical music and Vermont politics by well renown professors from around the country.  I listened to George Gershwin’s Rhapsody in Blue with a fresh perspective from what I learned before I got out of bed this morning…talk about feeding the brain some novelty.

Your brain is like a hungry child.  It has to be fed…frequently. 


LILLIBRIDGE priorities choices

This morning my friend, Marita and I discussed the need to unclutter our busy brains. I’ve found when I employ this strategy—it really helps. In the morning if I make a list of my priorities/values and say to myself that I will only:
1. read
2. click through
3. listen to
4. seek out
information that has me closer to reaching my daily goals that I’m way more satisfied at the end of the day. Try it. Just like everything else it takes practice and daily reminders. You might be amazed at how empowering it can be to act more deliberately. The irony of blogging about this when I’m asking you to not pay attention isn’t lost on me. 🙂