three life changing words

Lately I’ve been thinking about my “shitty roommate”.  This is my personal inner voice—she makes me doubt myself all the time.  She puts those snarky thoughts in my head that I’m “not good enough”, “not reaching my potential” or “if only you were more like…”.

Shame is the inner language of self-attack and self-blame AND shame is my shitty roommate’s jam.

Instead of trying to kick her out (which is exhausting and nearly impossible), I’ve decided to get more curious about her…even love her up a bit. Yes, she’s manipulative AND she also has pushed me.  We’re really quite competitive.  When she has my ear, she’s granted me the opportunity to self-correct behavior that doesn’t line up with my values, seek forgiveness from those I’ve wronged or offer myself a little grace.

But now, it’s time to change the rules of engagement using one short sentence. 

true

The more I say it, the more power it has for all sorts of situations in my life.

When I question her language, my shitty roommate just puts her headphones on and leaves me alone until the next time…and there will always be a next time.  She hates those three words, however, we do seem to be getting along a little better lately.

Dream, Girl

I’m taking my daughters and a friend to a benefit for the Vermont Women’s Fund tonight.  We are viewing the film Dream, Girl about women in entrepreneurship.  Then we get the privilege of a Q & A with some bold, female leaders in our community.

I created these images today.  I’m beyond compulsive about my South Dakota two-lane images. I’m all for a good creative obsession if it isn’t hurting anyone else. Here’s the Dorthea Lange quote I love.  I wasn’t kidding.

“Pick a theme and work it to exhaustion… the subject must be something you truly love or truly hate.”—Dorthea Lange

Today as I searched through my images I kept noticing shots with girls & women and shoes & boots…four of my favorites subjects.  All of these girls and women possess character, strength and a certain moxie.

Here’s the trailer.  You can do a screening in your area.  http://dreamgirlfilm.com/