When I carefully choose what I want to pay attention to, my heart swells.
When I let the world be in charge of what I should pay attention to, my heart sinks.
When I realized that every minute of every day I have a choice, even though it seems so simple, I really felt like I had been liberated.
We have the privilege of getting to make choices (good or bad) and learn from them and get up another day and make another round of choices. We are choice makers—not constant victims of circumstance. Fabulous, huh?
Well, not entirely, because when I began to study about the nature of choice it put a bunch of victim crap I’ve carried around back on my own broad shoulders. Wait, I can’t dump that on someone else? Someone didn’t DO that to me, that was my choice? I didn’t want to think about it. Choosing is not an easy process, but that’s the way the universe operates. I tried to unlearn and block out what I was reading. I just couldn’t, the genie was out of the bottle and now I’m grateful.
Every moment of every day we have choices to make.
thankfully we have a choice every day.
After a wonderfully dense four hour conversation this morning with two very smart thoughtful friends over coffee, pastry and strawberries I learned of the book: The How of Happiness by Sonja Lyubomirsky. I wanted to give you a quick visual for the basis of the book. I personally need to use this pie chart as a quick visual reminder for my own happiness and choices.
“But what precisely can we do to hasten or bolster such increases in happiness? The answer lies in the pie chart theory of happiness. Recall that 50 percent of individual differences in happiness are governed by genes, 10 percent by life circumstances, and the remaining 40 percent by what we do and how we think-that is, our intentional activities and strategies.” Sonja Lyubomirsky, Ph.D., is Professor of Psychology at the University of California, Riverside
OUR HAPPINESS IS WITHIN OUR POWER TO CHANGE not an entirely predetermined way of life. Let that marinade in your brain a while OR put that in your pipe and smoke it. Whatever resonates more for you. It might sound ridiculous, but some little changes could net big gains in your happiness level. Maybe worth a shot, huh?
Here’s the link to the book:
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