Winter solstice 2017 in Northern Hemisphere will be at 11:28 AM
Thursday, December 21 (eastern time)
One of my favorite books is Elizabeth Gilbert’s BIG MAGIC. She writes about creativity and what type of energy we let dominate our lives. She boils it down to two types.
The martyr OR the trickster?
“Martyr energy is dark, solemn, macho, hierarchical, fundamentalist, austere, unforgiving, and profoundly rigid.
“Trickster energy is light, sly, transgender, transgression, animist, seditious, primal, and endlessly shape-shifting.”
“I believe that the original human impulse for creativity was born out of pure trickster energy. …Creativity wants to flip the mundane world upside down and turn it inside out, and that’s exactly what a trickster does best. The trickster is obviously a charming and subversive figure.
But for me, the most wonderful thing about a good trickster is that he trusts.
He trusts himself, obviously. He trusts his own cunning, his own right to be here, his own ability to land on his feet in any situation. To a certain extent, of course, he also trusts other people. But mostly, the trickster trusts the universe.”
—Elizabeth Gilbert/BIG MAGIC
Who wants to live with mostly martyr energy?
Martyr energy is a total bummer.
If the universe is meant to be played with, then we must PLAY. This doesn’t mean we can escape the mundane parts of daily life, grief or death. However, deploying our creative trickster energy when needed (even in very difficult passages of our lives) gives us more options and lets us access more creativity.
The trickster trusts and doesn’t let doubt or paranoia get in the way of a good time.
The trickster would invite the martyr to discuss something very serious and then maybe coax them into skinny dipping instead.
Come on, let your inner trickster out.
I’m moving out of my studio and I want to honor the 15+ years I’ve worked there with an informal (and last minute) open house. Over the years my parties were known for two things, well, maybe three—art, noisy kids and peanut M & Ms.
There will be art, jewelry and some accessories for sale and a few items simply for viewing that I’m unable to part with right now. I can guarantee that this will be a very low key event. Please just stop by and say hello if you’re out and about on Saturday. I would love to see you even if just for a minute. Please share this or bring a friend.
You can do a quick run through of my space, say hello, grab some M & Ms and browse through Deep 6 Goods that is just below me. Joey’s shop has very cool stuff. Here’s the link: http://www.deep6goods.com/.
180 Flynn Ave • Burlington • Vermont• Saturday • 2-5pm
(back right corner toward the tall smokestack and up the green fire escape)
Half of all sales will be donated to the Chittenden Emergency Food Shelf in Burlington, Vermont.
Seek wonder—it is everywhere.
I am quite insignificant in the scheme of the world.
Rest is a sign of strength and self-preservation.
and modeling that for my children is really important to me. I find this concept to be really crucial in my adult development. I didn’t really understand this until I was entering middle-age. As an introvert, I’ve always loved my time alone. However, the concept of really being my own best friend took years to fully integrate. Thankfully, Lisa and I finally have this all pretty well figured out now…even though she can be a total pain in the ass sometimes. I love her in spite of her flaws.
My Positive Psychology teacher Tal Ben-Shahar frequently reiterates that we have to give ourselves “permission to be human”. This doesn’t mean that we have to accept every one of our behaviors as—”oh well, that’s me” and not even try to self correct. It does mean however, that when we screw up, we can take notice, mend the damage, alter our behavior, move on and try to do it a little bit differently next time.
As our own BFF we have to encourage ourselves just as we would encourage a friend who is going through some of life’s trials.
I would love to cut short some of these challenging years for my three children. The hard years when we often aren’t so kind to ourselves…teens and early twenties. I guess some lessons are like learning to walk before we crawl though. We simply can’t shortchange the steps.
Some of our growth requires more years of life’s joys and sorrows coupled with the experience and wisdom that follows. Regardless, I believe we can start talking to our children at a very young age about being their own best friend, enjoying their own company and knocking back negative self talk.
I just spent the better part of the week in Lexington, Kentucky helping Elizabeth Bunsen run an ecodyeing workshop with a remarkable group of women. Our host most magnificent; Patricia Baldwin Seggebruch, an encaustic artist has created a space for the magic of artist workshops to take place in an 1880s Victorian home being lovingly restored (encaustic castle).
Patricia (Trish) has remarkable vision for workshops and artists in residency programs of all creative stripes. Sue Stover started a workshop the day I had to head back to Vermont. My brood needed me or I would’ve loved to have stayed. I’ll be back one day.
Here’s the link to Sue’s unique work. http://susanstover.com/
Magnificent sheets and comfortable beds were much welcomed after long days of creativity and laughter (and a few tears as well). In the morning we gathered in the dining room and we were served homemade granola (ginger fetish), yogurt, fresh baked breads, coffee and spirited conversation. Over breakfast one day we got to hear the low down from a couple who went to a Pearl Jam show the night before, they snuck in late and didn’t even wake any of us sleeping in the rooms next to theirs.
I can’t quite put into words yet what this experience entirely meant to me, so I thought I would layer some images that felt most “dreamlike” from my days in Kentucky. There will be a lot more photographs to follow.
Here are the links to get on mailing lists and to check out the accommodations if you are ever planning a trip to Lexington (you really should, very cool city).
https://www.airbnb.com/users/show/14472982 (login or create an airbnb profile to see more images)
I’ve experienced deep sorrow this week with the loss of a friend due to a long, painful illness. Through that process I’ve realized what a unique gift sorrow can be in understanding ourselves and our place in the world. I know that my friend would’ve been very open to a discussion about this topic—she had an enormous capacity to explore the psychology of the soul.
definition of sorrow
noun sor·row \ˈsär-(ˌ)ō, ˈsȯr-\
a feeling of sadness or grief caused especially by the loss of someone or something
: a cause of grief or sadness
definition of joy
: a feeling of great happiness
: a source or cause of great happiness : something or someone that gives joy to someone
Sorrow & Joy I believe exist in the same place in our hearts. They just feel a helluva lot different. I feel that both emotions need each other to be fully acknowledged, accepted and better understood. Thank you for this, my friend.
I will probably come home tell you about. In the city where it’s perpetually Saturday night a lot of photo and story opportunities will present themselves. I am traveling today with friends and my sister to spend a few days in the desert, see a couple of shows and lounge by the pool. We are celebrating some big birthdays, a reunion of sorts and an epic upcoming spring wedding. Have a good weekend folks!