life’s purpose vs. being purposeful

I’m so weary of the world telling me to “find my purpose”.  It creates such unnecessary anxiety. Preaching PURPOSE as the only path to HAPPINESS and SATISFACTION is so common everywhere in our culture that it’s actually pretty hard to get away from.  As I pondered this life’s purpose mumbo jumbo, I had a thought that eased my mind.

What if we shifted the discussion from

“FINDING OUR PURPOSE” to simply realizing

that every day we are already being “PURPOSEFUL”? 

We all do things that make the world a better place on a “micropurpose” level all the time. These adds up to something pretty damn awesome.  We make people laugh, prepare food, hold doors, show up, smile, let something go, say “I’m sorry”, pick up the check, sit with people in grief, lend a helping hand, let someone cut in line, turn the other cheek, give hugs, wash things, lend money and encouragement, pick up trash, grab coffee, send gifts, laugh at jokes, buy a drink, text “I love you” or make a phone call, the list goes on and on.

So, instead of beating ourselves up that we haven’t found our life’s purpose—let’s just take breath (or 2 or even 3) and then take a look at how truly purposeful we are every single day of our lives.  These purposeful gestures can have a ripple effect making things better for so many beings…including ourselves.

Simply choosing to live in a purposeful manner is much easier to build upon than another day chasing the somewhat indulgent and rather elusive preoccupation with finding “LIFE’S PURPOSE”.

So here’s to not actually finding LIFE’S PURPOSE and living a life that is beautifully purposeful.

P.S. I take my coffee with only a splash of cream. 🙂  How do you take yours?

Thank you, Albert Einstein. It’s all in perspective.

I don’t know about you, but the more I try to THINK instead of FEEL my way through challenges I’m LESS SUCCESSFUL.  When I look at an issues from a lot of perspectives I can generally see more solutions.

—I get STUCK when my options seem limited.  I really like options.

“We can not solve our problems with the same level of thinking that created them”
― Albert Einstein

Today I need to turn some assumptions on their head and see what I FEEL when I do that.  What I THINK might actually be irrelevant.

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I dreamed…

I was standing in front of a huge bank of drawers labeled something like this illustration.  I was able to open and close the various drawers at will and things would stay magically in place.  Well, of course the absurdity of trying to do this wasn’t lost on me, but I had to create the visual about how “in relationship” all aspects of our lives are all the time.

Trying to get various parts of myself to NOT AVOID EACH OTHER other has required a fair amount of strategy.  It seems so obvious, however, when I thought about the reality of this…it wasn’t quite so simple.  Below is a more realistic illustration I think, at least for me.

THE REALITY OF COMPARTMENTALIZATION LISA LILLIBRIDGE

I’ve really tried to integrate who I am in my studio with the woman I bring home to my family. My family would love the woman at the studio. She’s this creative, resourceful, innovative, free-spirit sort of person. And she has chocolate and beef jerky stashed everywhere.

The reality was that my poor family would get a tired, cranky, unresourceful woman who made everyone feel like they were an interruption and a bother.  So, now I’m making a real effort to bring my artist self home with me.  I might manage this only some of the time—but hey, t’s a work in progress & really isn’t everything?

I would love to hear your stories of successes or struggles in this arena.

Lisa sig

boredom is very 2015

NEW TECH CITY is a podcast about how technology is making our lives better and worse hosted by WNYC’s Manoush Zomorodi.  I am going to take the challenge by downloading the app MOMENT that tracks your phone use and lets you see in real scary time how much of your day your spend on your phone.

  1. I really need to disconnect from my smartphone in 2015.
  2. I need/want more time to daydream.
  3. Here’s the podcast that inspired me.

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This is a truly scary discovery from the research: “The average mobile consumer checks their device 150 times a day, and 67 percent of the time, that’s not because it rang or vibrated.”

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“Studies suggest that we get our most original ideas when we stop the constant stimulation and let ourselves get bored.”  —Manoush Zomorodi