I’ve been reading a lot lately about the nature of choice. We live in a society where there sometimes is a tendency to “blame” others for our own behavior. “The devil made me do it.” We all make mistakes, it’s the choices we make after them that really matter.
noun: choice; plural noun: choices
an act of selecting or making a decision when faced with two or more possibilities.
I know some people subscribe to a philosophy that our lives are just laid out in front of us with no choices…all fate. All the time. That’s fine if that’s working for you. I just happen to wholeheartedly disagree. We have free will. We choose how to respond. We can choose who we want to be. We can choose whether or not to let someone provoke bad behavior in us. We can choose to learn more. We choose how to utilize new knowledge. Knowledge is power in every circumstance even sometimes when it’s painful.
When I realized that every minute of every day I have a choice, even though it seems so simple, I really felt like I had been liberated.
We have the privilege of getting to make choices (good or bad) and learn from them and get up another day and make another round of choices. We are choice makers—not constant victims of circumstance. Fabulous, huh?
Well, not entirely, because when I began to study about the nature of choice it put a bunch of victim crap I’ve carried around back on my own broad shoulders. Wait, I can’t dump that on someone else? Someone didn’t DO that to me, that was my choice? I didn’t want to think about it. Choosing is not an easy process, but that’s the way the universe operates. I tried to unlearn and block out what I was reading. I just couldn’t, the genie was out of the bottle and now I’m grateful.
Every moment of every day we have choices to make.
When we make choices with personal authority and ownership they can actually help us learn a lot about ourselves. I don’t know about you, but I will spend my lifetime trying to understand Lisa. She’s actually a total pain in the ass—however, the more I know about her, the more I know and that’s never a bad thing…even if it’s painful in the short term.
“One’s philosophy is not best expressed in words; it is expressed in the choices one makes. In the long run, we shape our lives and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And, the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.” —Eleanor Roosevelt